5 Truths About Sexual Violence We All Need To Know

A new day is upon us. People are finally having open and honest discussions about sex, sexual health, sexual violence and all the stakes they entail. For the longest time, such discussions were had discreetly or not at all, but finally, things are looking up and we are better for it.

Young women grew accustomed to taking that walk of shame the morning after a wild night out and couldn’t even say a word to anyone about being violated because they would be blamed for their irresponsibility and care free nature. Some others just had a relative or close friend take advantage of them, breaching their trust in the guise of familiarity. Across the world, scenarios like these still happen every day and some of us trivialize it by turning the other cheek in nonchalance, until it hits home then we all become convenient activists.

So what is sexual violence? sexual violence definition

Sexual violence refers to any sexual act or attempt to obtain sexual acts by violence or coercion. Like most sensitive topics, there is a lot of ignorance associated with sexual violence.

There are certain things people do not fully know or frankly cannot understand and that’s where arming yourself with the right information comes to play and if everyone would take responsibility for their sexual awareness the world would be a much safer place.

These are some truths about sexual health we all ought to know

#1. Sexual violence can happen to any of us


Sexual violence can happen to anyone regardless of gender, age, race, religion, and economic class.
That’s scary to think about but is sadly true. This should make us more conscious and be on the lookout for any form of sexual violence and not turn a deaf ear just because it’s not happening to you or someone you know. Also, if you know that it could have been you or your loved one, empathy would come rolling out naturally.

#2. Tipsy is not consent


Woohoo!!! A drink or two won’t hurt anybody and then before we know it the world is spinning and we’re on system overload. This must have happened to a lot of us at one point in life and if you haven’t experienced it, good for you. This is not to justify getting wasted and losing control of oneself but taking advantage of a vulnerable person is extremely wrong. Being under the influence of alcohol or drugs is not an invitation for sexual activity. A person under the influence of drugs or alcohol cannot make stable decisions or give consent, therefore should not be coerced into any sexual activity.

#3. It’s often someone you know

Most sexual assaults and rapes are committed by someone the victim knows. Among victims aged 18 to 29, two-thirds had a prior relationship with the offender. This is why precautions should be made to avoid this situation, don’t leave your little ones with just anyone no matter the label attached to them, also teach them to speak up for themselves if someone touches them inappropriately. Even as an adult being careful about who you visit and who visits you would go a long way. This saying “it is he who knows you that knows best how to kill you” is very profound and true.

#4. Sexual assault is NEVER your fault

The stigma attached to victims of sexual violence usually leaves the victims with a sense of guilt and dirtiness. This is the only case where a victim is blamed for being a victim. Absurd right? Contrary to popular belief sexual assault is not provoked by the victim’s actions, behaviors, or by the way they dress. It is perpetuated by a person who lacks self control and is troubled, one way or the other. It is our responsibility to help victims believe that it wasn’t their fault and that healing is possible.

#5. Healing is possible

Sexual abuse leaves a victim physically and emotionally battered and long after the physical damage has healed, a survivor’s mental scars remain. Recovering from sexual assault or abuse takes time and no one should be rushed into “getting over it”. Survivors need to be patient with themselves, seek professional help and practice self-care. Support and empathy goes a long way in making the victims feel safe enough to heal.

It is important to keep ourselves informed on sexual violence and to keep having helpful conversations because at the end of the day, the change begins with each of us.

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